How To Manage Emotions
Updated: Jan 3
By Behcet Bicakci, Life Coach (DipLC)
Did you know, if you are not able to manage your emotions, it can ruin you both physically and mentally?
You might have experienced in real life or seen in a movie that someone gets so angry and having a heart attack, or so angry and lose their temper or control and hurt someone or themselves.
In both cases, when they get calm, they wouldn’t remember what happened to them or what they have done. When you are not able to manage your emotions, you will either ruin your life or someone’s life.
How to manage your emotions:
1- Observe your emotions and try to find out who or what annoys or make you angry. Try to keep the distance and ignore them. If you are not able to do because they are close to you, such as family members, work colleagues, etc., try less communicate or less cooperate with them, especially when they are negative. It might not be easy at the beginning, but once you have enough courage to do so, it will be easier in a few days.
2- Learn let it go. Once you let it go, you will feel better. Letting it go is not a weakness but an activity of a healthy mind and personality. When you are in the process of letting it go, try to find different activities and talk about various subjects with others. You will feel much better in a few days or weeks by not speaking about the subject or person bothers you,
3- Educate yourself about emotional intelligence, learn about feelings such as fear, anger, happiness etc. This will help you to manage them. There are thousands of books, articles, blogs, videos, podcasts on self-development and how to manage your feelings.
4- Learn from experts; therapists, psychologists, life coaches. Read their blogs, books, listen/watch their podcasts & videos. Internet, social media and other tools such as youtube allow us to reach materials that beneficial for our self-development. If you look for it, you will find it.
No matter how clever you are, if you can’t manage your feelings, you will end up with failure, stress, depression and hopelessness. There are so many talented people in prisons or graveyards because they couldn’t control their emotions.
By learning how to manage your emotions, you can have a happy and successful life as well as make life bearable for others.